Posts Tagged ‘ Anger ’

Avoid Spontaneous Combustion

Strife is stirred up by the hot-tempered. Contention is calmed by those slow to anger. Proverbs 15:18 adapted

MP900390445[1] In the certain industries, people work around combustible materials and explosive gases. In those places safety is the #1 concern. Everything possible has to be done to protect the workers. Of course the key to safety in those situations is prevention. The focus has to be on reducing the risk of combustion and explosion.

Relationships can be just like those combustible environments. Angry, temperamental people can spark conflict in a flash. All it takes is little misunderstanding, and they explode. That is the wrong kind of person to be in a relationship with. For some, it creates a dangerous environment, which threatens their safety and well-being.

abstract fire on blackWise people understand the dangers of spontaneous combustion. They recognize the  havoc a hot temper can cause. So they are careful to not throw gasoline on the fire. They don’t fight back with anger. They know that fighting fire with fire can explode into a disastrous situation.

Wise people are slow to anger. They don’t purposely aggravate a situation. They don’t look for ways to cause trouble. They are the kind of people I want to surround myself with.

What I find is that when I am around those who are slow to anger there is a calm, even in stressful times. My life is tough enough. I don’t need to be around angry people who stir up problems and set fires. I need to partner with those who work hard to prevent conflict, and who respond to life’s stress with patience, love and Christ-honoring action.

You may be in a combustible situation, and you may not be able to change your MP900442246[1]environment. The key is to surround yourself with people who will work hard with you to prevent the kinds of explosions that break relationships apart and destroy lives. Those who put the love of Christ into action can reduce the risk of strife and bring calm to even the most difficult times.

Why not keep yourself near those people?  Why not do all you can to reduce the risk of spontaneous combustion!


Putting Things In Perspective

King David was having a problem with his mouth and his anger. Read what happened.

j0443001Psalm 39:3-6: I said, “I will guard my ways that I may not sin with my tongue; I will keep a muzzle on my mouth as long as the wicked are in my presence.” I was silent and still; I held my peace to no avail; my distress grew worse, my heart became hot within me. While I mused, the fire burned; then I spoke with my tongue: “Lord, let me know my end, and what is the measure of my days; let me know how fleeting my life is. You have made my days a few handbreadths, and my lifetime is as nothing in your sight. Surely everyone stands as a mere breath. Surely everyone goes about like a shadow. Surely for nothing they are in turmoil; they heap up, and do not know who will gather. (NRSV)

David was practicing good psychology here. He was trying to think before he spoke. But he found that even though he stayed silent and still, his temper continued to boil. Holding in anger just added fuel to his already hot fire, and left him in an explosive state!

What David really needed was a change of heart, and he knew it. So he prayed. He asked God to help him know his end.

David wanted God to impress on him how fleeting his life was. He knew that would help him keep his problems and struggles in proper perspective.

From David’s words it’s clear that a change of heart comes from a change of mind. I think David was right. When I step back and look at life as it really is, as a passingBD18287I breath across the backdrop of eternity, then my momentary frustrations seem almost insignificant. When I focus more on who God is, and who I am in relation to God, everything else starts coming into perspective.

Maybe if we all stayed focused on the work God is doing in us and in our world, then anger’s burning flame would begin to dim. Our daily troubles would seem more like passing breezes. Those breezes might frustrate and annoy us, but they would not necessarily knock us off course, blind our vision or stop our progress.j0443034

So next time you get angry, don’t bother trying to hold it in. Drop down on your knees, and ask God to help you put things into perspective.

With your eyes on the Lord, problems will start looking more like opportunities, and anger will begin giving way to enthusiastic obedience!